THE LIFE

April 26th, 2010

Indecent Proposal

Peep show store

“We’re in the wrong business,” Gio said jokingly after sushi one night in the city.

She was right and wrong at the same time. While browsing for bachelorette party favors on 34th Street, a man approached us and offered help in finding good favors at a cheap price. Now, what girl doesn’t love a sale?

Peep show storeHowever, as the conversation went on, and trust me it wasn’t long; his help got a little out of context. As we were looking for party favors, he was looking for us to do favors at a party. I was curious as to exactly what he was talking about and how much girls could get paid for this type of thing. In no way did my questioning suggest any interest in going to his party, but I had always heard about and seen these types of interactions in movies, but this was real.  We were being given our very own INDECENT PROPOSAL.

Okay, initially the guy did ask us if we were in the sexual solicitation business, my words not his. Of course we said no. We’re young women trying to use our intelligence to get ahead – not our bodies. This piece of information didn’t faze the middle-aged, Middle Eastern man. In fact, he was even more excited. He proceeded to tell us that since we were not in the sexual solicitation business, the men would in fact give us MORE money than women who were. Gio and I were baffled, but intrigued.

Here’s the deal: foreign men would pay girls, Gio and I, to give a toy show and because we were not in the business, we would make a thousand dollars each.

I don’t know about you, but I sure could use a cool grand right now. However, Gio and I would prefer to make that grand with our clothes on. As we left the little man in front of the peep show store, I knew that now I was officially a New Yorker again. Oh home sweet home; you sure know how to welcome a girl.

We’re in the wrong business! There isn’t a PR executive standing outside Barnes and Noble asking someone to work for his firm with an advance check.  Instead there are men asking women to give shows for tourists and business men.  For young girls, and women alike, living in cities with the same streets as New York, I can only imagine that the decision on which B, brains or body, to use can be tough especially if there is lack of motivation and direction.

Fast money is always appealing and that is where my morality came in to question. At 23 years old, I’ve seen and been through a lot of scenarios that have decreased my naivety quite a bit. However, this proposal fascinated me. It gave me a rush of shock and anger. Shock because the proposal was hilarious and profitable and anger because I’m trying to use my knowledge to make money and I can’t walk down the street and obtain a high paying position at 9 o’clock at night.

I think the issue of using your brains versus your body has always been a touchy and deep subject. It involves so much more than just sexual solicitation. I’ll have to get into the other interactions another day. For many young men and women, the brain is the sexiest and most intriguing asset a person can have. Why can’t we just stick to that?


About the Author

Demaris Bailey
Demaris Bailey is an Editor for Socialtik Mag and public relations scholar from the Bronx, NY. Attending high school in suburban Massachusetts and a Historically Black University has helped her understand cultural boundaries and differences.




 
 

 
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11 Comments


  1. The scenario you present is funny and sad at the same time. I'm glad you two didn't take this man up on his offer, because who knows what he had waiting for you. It's funny because you can talk about it, but it's sad because young women are tricked everyday into thinking “gigs” like the one you mentioned are acceptable.


  2. I agree! The issue of young women using their body is way deeper than explored here.


  3. I would say that no price could be right for me to have taken him up on his proposal. As I mentioned in the article, it can be hard for some women, young and old, to pass up quick money on such an easy basis as sex.

    In no way, shape or form am I acting like it doesn’t cross my mind, because that is why I wrote the article. This describes all the thoughts pumping through my brain. As young, professional women or just young women in general, I think it is important for us to show that we have so much more to offer than our bodies and sex appeal.

    There is nothing wrong with being comfortable with our sexuality, but using it to get what we want or to make quick cash isn’t appealing to me. Yes, times are hard, but I feel like they would be even harder if I decided to go around giving shows for strange men in hotel rooms. Can I make a quick grand writing an article or PR proposal for strange men in hotel rooms? If so, sign me up.


  4. This is a well written article, its funny how bold some people actually are. My question to you and your friend gio is, what would it take to make the two of you guys consider and accept his offer? I am sure that there are people who are going through some hard times right now that an easy grand could help relieve some stress. Everybody has a price, so im wondering What's yours? (just a friendly question)


  5. would you have done it for the right price? I hate when women act like it dosnt cross their minds


  6. GioNo Gravatar

    All i can tell you is that a grand is not my price!! Actually i don't think my morals, values and integrity can be bought. I would have to be in a serious situation to even CONSIDER it. i try to live a life where i will not regret my actions, and i personally couldn't live that kind of lifestyle because it would weigh heavy on my mind and heart. I would rather use my mind to get ahead in life and be respected for it.


  7. GioNo Gravatar

    He wanted us to perform a show using sex toys for a group of tourists


  8. It doesn't seem like he wanted sex, just a toy show…. is this correct? If that's the case, why not just do it?!?


  9. gioNo Gravatar

    All i can tell you is that a grand is not my price!! Actually i don't think my morals, values and integrity can be bought. I would have to be in a serious situation to even CONSIDER it. i try to live a life where i will not regret my actions, and i personally couldn't live that kind of lifestyle because it would weigh heavy on my mind and heart. I would rather use my mind to get ahead in life and be respected for it.


  10. GioNo Gravatar

    He wanted us to perform a show using sex toys for a group of tourists


  11. She was right and wrong at the same time. While browsing for bachelorette party favors on 34th Street, a man approached us and offered help in finding good favors at a cheap price. Now, what girl doesn’t love a sale?



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