THE LIFE

August 17th, 2011

Love (Without) First Sight

Do you think it’s possible to fall in love with someone without having ever met them in the flesh?

Before you answer, let me tell you a few things:

Back in the old days princes and princesses would become engaged without ever meeting their betrothed until the wedding. They relied on word of mouth from the ambassadors who’d relay the physical attributes of the intended. In many cases they’d present portraits, that not all the time quite conveyed the true likenesses.

In today’s society, we have many new technologies that allow us quick and almost instant access to people all over the world. Twitter, Facebook, Skype and a number of other social platforms allow us to create endless connections with others that are miles away.

Now, I know you may be wondering, “How can you fall in love with someone you never met (in the flesh)?” Well it’s really a simple idea. Many of us share so much personal information with “strangers” in this Internet age than we do with people in our very own homes.

Personally, I have had a relationship with someone whom I’d never met face to face initially. This was quite some time ago, before Skype and other currently popular video calling tools. We used Yahoo Messenger’s video feature and we’d be on there for hours and hours cultivating a relationship. We’d talk on the phone exchange letters and even gifts.

One Christmas I had an opportunity to go to Rochester, NY to visit family and it all worked out being that my “unseen love” lived nearby. We met and it was as if we were long lost friends, rather than strangers meeting for the first time. Location soon worked out to our advantage, but as with many relationships, things soon fizzled.

I currently know someone that is “involved” with someone that they have not physically met yet. They actually go through all of the motions of a true relationship; arguing, jealousy, heartache, happiness and the all night phone conversations. Yet, they keep this “relationship” under wraps, not sharing it with other friends or their social networks like they do everything else in their lives.

Sure it’s easy to say, “You can’t really know someone until you meet them.” The same is also said for people who have met and spent time together. People then say, “You don’t really know a person until you’ve lived with them.”

Considering the examples of people in history falling in love without physically meeting, why is it so taboo in this millennium to do the same?


About the Author

Domonique Thompson
Holding degrees in Politcal Science and English from Columbia University, modeling professionally for New York Model Management, owing his own styling and event planning company (A Dream Preferred), and having been in the Boys Choir of Harlem for 15 years all qualify Domonique to give his personal view on the subjects that matter most to him: Politics, Religion, Music, Fashion, and Pop Culture




 
 

 

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