After I heard that Jay-Z would be taking Beyonce’s last name I flipped out!
I immediately thought, “Wow! That is a serious chick!” She has Mr. Roca Wear himself changing his name and adding her surname. However, after doing my own research, I realized the two will be adopting each other’s names: The Knowles-Carters!
I think that this is absolutely brilliant! Before I dive deeper, let me give some more information on this interesting couple.
The two decided to keep their names for two main reasons. One, they wanted to keep their family names alive. Secondly, the Knowles have always wanted male children. Thus, their new son-in-law took on the challenge and provided them with something that they had always desired.
I personally had to commend Mr. Knowles-Carter because not all men, especially of his caliber, would be willing to do such a thing. However, some young people may not be willing to do the same for various reasons: tradition, love, business etc.
Contrary to belief, this topic has been discussed frequently. Fortunately, there are a plethora of options for couples out there that are currently battling this dilemma.
Woman Takes Her Husband’s Name:
- It’s the most socially acceptable option. This is the most common idea of marriage.
- It’s the easiest bureaucratic option. Couples with different last names may encounter problems with insurance, voting records, and so forth.
- Naming the children is easier. Married couples will have to determine the child’s last name. However, if the woman takes her husband’s last name, the child will automatically receive the father’s last name as well and keep the tradition going.
- Family cohesion. Having the same name signifies a union for the family.
Woman and Man Both Keep Their Names:
- Feminist concerns. Women may choose to keep their names because it is often apart of one’s identity.
- Changing your name is a pain. It is essential that the female change everything that concerns identity: Social Security card, driver’s license, passport, credit cards, etc.
- Career concerns. Women have already established themselves under their traditional name and may feel it’s too late to change it.
- Easier than hyphenating. People with hyphenated names confuse the bureaucracy and have to do annoying things like spell their name over the phone multiple times.
- Attachment to a name. Some women just like their last name.
- It’s not as hard as it used to be. It has become common enough for a woman to keep her name and bureaucrats have figured it out.
- If you get divorced, you don’t have to change your name back. Of course one shouldn’t think of this as the predicted ending, however, keeping your name can be easier if things don’t work out.
The Hyphenated Name:
- Compromise. Both parties will be able to honor their surnames which will create a balance for the relationship.
- Both partners can hyphenate. A mutual hyphenated name may be the answer if neither person wants to let go of their last name.
- It’s not as hard as it used to be. A hyphenated name has become common and people are more aware of the idea.
Woman Adds on Her Husband’s Last Name:
- Compromise. Another way to stay true to tradition, yet honor the husband.
- Easier than hyphenation. Less bureaucratic issues.
- Career concerns. If your name used to be Jane Doe, business associates might not know your new name is Jane Smith. However, if you’re Jane Doe-Smith, there will be much less confusion.
Woman Changes Name, Uses Maiden Name Professionally:
- Best of both worlds. Professionally nothing changes.
- Less confusion at work. Less paperwork trying to change the last name on documents.
Couple Creates a New Name:
- Design your own name. This satisfies both individuals by creating a fresh name.
- Perhaps the least patriarchal option. This is a new opportunity that a woman can take advantage of. She is creating a new family line, and breaking free of the name-passed-down by tradition.
Man Takes the Woman’s Name:
- Nonconformity, but with the benefits of having just one name. Still maintaining the convenience of one last name.
- Family cohesion. Helps to support the union among the couple and future children.
- A way for a man to honor his wife. A great way for a man to pledge his eternal love to his wife.
So after reading the various options, who do you think should take the last name?