THE LIFE

February 14th, 2011

Never Say ‘I Love You’ Too Early

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You… love him?

The doctors are in: psychotherapists Judith Belmont and Lora Shor shared some of their wisdom on prematurely dropping the “l bomb”.

1. Are you in love with love?
“The best kind of love spreads around to others also – if the love is possessive and makes you less secure and even jealous, that’s a telltale sign that that is more infatuation than mature love.”

2. Does love really mean never having to say you’re sorry?
“Au contraire – that’s actually a sign of immature love, as being able to take responsibility and not project blame on others is an important ingredient of a healthy relationship. Struggling with apologies makes the love more about you and less about them.”

3. How can you tell if it is “real love” or “infatuation?”

“Infatuation can be one of the elements of “real love” but once times are tough and the going gets rough, infatuation will not provide the glue to keep you together. Developing a deeper commitment and connection of a more mature and less self-centered love will.”

4. Those Butterflies
“In mature love, you can still have the “butterflies,” but when the butterflies land, they go through another transformation to signify the growth, change and beauty of deeper love.”

5. A Healthy Relationship
“Healthy love brings out the best in us and is synonymous with growth and change. One of the telltale signs of healthy love is having the ability and support to evolve independently as well as with the other person.”

6. Me, Me, Me
“Infatuation is more about you, whereas real love is more about the other person. People who are needy and love someone for what that person can do for them see their mate as more of an extension of themselves, making their love more narcissistic. Those who have a more mature and deeper love will want what is best for the other person and if the going gets rough, they will not turn on the other person.”

See the entire post here.


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