F is for Flesh…Gordon. In the 1974 film parody of the Flash Gordon serials of the 1930s, the villainous Emperor Wang aims his Sex Ray at Earth to incapacitate human beings with insatiable sexual desires. In Sleeper, Woody Allen finds the Orgasmatron and the Orb for fighting frigidity. The Coneheads toss “sensor rings” onto one another’s pointy appendages for pleasure in the 1993 movie. In the 1964 Barbarella, evil Dr. Durand-Durand teases Barbarella to the brink of orgasmic overdose with his Excessive Machine. And in 1999’s The Spy Who Shagged Me, Austin Powers gets his mojo back.
So, what’s your Sex Ray, pal? Don’t have one? Do or don’t, we guarantee you’ll pick up something fun for heating your sheets in our non-PBS version of the ABCs.
Short for Anterior Fornix Erogenous (AFE) Zone, this is a sensitive area located midway between a woman’s cervix and G-spot on the front wall of the vagina. Stroking this highly sensitive spongy area causes almost immediate lubrication. To reach it, insert a lubed finger into the vagina as far as it will comfortable go. Rub gently using the length of the finger exploring the front wall. When found, she’ll start to get wet.
Spice up oral sex by sucking on an extra-strength mint lozenge before you stroll down below. Refreshing!
The practice of anal sex has been around for centuries and today it is more common among heterosexuals than one might think. Many couples find it to be highly enjoyable, partly because the area near the rectum is a sensory-rich venue with loads of nerve endings close to the surface. To learn more, order your copy of The Big Book of Sex.
Blocking out one of the senses, such as sight, heightens sensitivity of the others to compensate. Plus, when you can’t see what will happen next, the anticipation can be pretty exciting. Try the padded leather blindfold from MyPleasure.com. Can’t wait for FedEx? Then cover his or her eyes with the shirt you were just wearing. “Your natural scent is a huge aphrodisiac,” says Sharon Moalem, PhD, author of How Sex Works.
Body Image, Booty Call, Brazilian and more in The Big Book of Sex.
Slang term referring to female genitalia.
C-tactile Nerve Fibers
The body is brimming with these pleasurable nerves, especially on the forearms. British researchers say that when they are stroked just right—with the light pressure of a painter’s brushstroke, at 1 to 10 centimeters a second—those nerves send signals to the limbic system, an area of the brain associated with trust and affection.
Churning, Clitoral Comples, Cunnilingus…More in The Big Book of Sex
Using two forms of birth control may make sex twice as good. The Kinsey Institute found that women who use a hormonal contraceptive plus condoms report higher overall sexual satisfaction. Researchers believe that when women are less worried about pregnancy and STDs, they can relax and enjoy themselves more.
Sneak over to the erotica section of the bookstore. Purchase a few copies and reenact some particularly literary scenes. Check out Heat Wave: Sizzling Sex Stories by Alison Tyler, The Black Lace Series by Kerri Sharp, Seducing the Highlander by Emma Wildes, and Do Not Disturb: Hotel Sex Stories edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel.
Surveys suggest that men fantasize about sexual encounters about twice as often as women do. But it can be one of the most effective ways for women to tune in to a sexual experience because it helps turn off the parts of [their] brain associated with stress and anxiety. In fact, fantasizing is powerful enough to trigger orgasms in some women. In a study Beverly Whipple, PhD, co-author of The Science of Orgasm along with her colleagues Gena Ogden, PhD, and Barry R. Komisaruk, PhD, monitored the blood pressure, heart rate, pupil diameters, and pain tolerance of 10 women who claimed they could think their way to climax. As the subjects fantasized in a lab, seven exhibited the exact physical responses caused by hands-on stimulation. Encouraging your partner to fantasize may be difficult unless you know these secret strategies.
Forefinger, Fleshlight, Flirt and more in The Big Book of Sex.
Most sex games are cheesier than a Kraft Foods convention. But, with the right attitude, you might find that makes them all the more fun.
Classic: Bumps and Grinds. Drinking and stripping board game for two to six players, circa 1967.
Hand-Job: The Boy Scout Method. Find out how in The Big Book of Sex.
A very sweet cocktail made with 4 ounces orange juice, 2 ounces Absolute Vodka, and equal amounts of Hawaiian Punch and Mountain Dew. Mix gently and pour over ice in a highball glass.
Joy of Sex, The
First published in 1972 by British gerontologist Alex Comfort, MD, PhD, The Joy of Sex: A Gourmet Guide to Lovemaking, is a landmark sex book known for its erotic sketches of sexual positions. The latest update, worth procuring, is The New Joy of Sex published in 2008.
Sweeten the deal. Eat a strawberry before making out. The sugar activates the sweetness receptors in your mouth, so when you kiss your sense of taste will go into overdrive, says Krista Bloom, PhD, author of The Ultimate Compatibility Quiz.
Try facial intercourse. This smooch mimics sex from foreplay to penetration, beginning with a tongue exploration inside the mouth. Rub your tongues together in small and large circles, then dart them in and out of your mouths as if you were having intercourse.
Play vampire. Kiss the throat. Since this area is one of the most vulnerable spots on the body, softly kissing and licking it will feel like erotic torture. The neck is one of the most ticklish spots on the body, so exploring different degrees of sensation can be tantalizing.
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